Don’t talk about your relationship ~ Gottman Marriage Minute

Seems like counter-intuitive advice, right? Not when you’re having a “How was your day, dear?” conversation with your partner, which we refer to more formally in the Gottman Method as a stress-reducing conversation.

When you’re trying to de-stress at the end of the day, the cardinal rule is not to talk about your marriage.

Why? The stress-reducing conversation helps each of you to manage the external stress in your daily lives not caused by your relationship so that it doesn’t spill over into your marriage.

Even though it is always good to regularly open up about what you need and how you feel within your marriage, when you are both trying to de-stress and connect, then your relationship is a subject that should be off-limits.

A stress-reducing conversation is really a form of active listening, in which you respond to each other’s venting with empathy and without judgment, and it is a good ritual to reunify at the end of the day and support each other emotionally concerning other areas of your lives.

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